Sara and Mike Schneider’s dream of a complete family came true with the adoption of Luke and Bella, followed by the surprise birth of Noah. However, their joy was quickly overshadowed by concern for Luke’s behavior.
From infancy, Luke exhibited unusual needs and destructive tendencies. Despite countless doctor visits and therapies, answers remained elusive until age nine when they contacted Luke’s birth mother. The devastating truth emerged: Luke had suffered brain damage in utero due to domestic violence and alcohol exposure.
The years leading to this revelation were tumultuous. Luke’s unpredictable and often threatening behavior forced the family into survival mode. Sharp objects were removed, siblings’ doors were locked, and walls bore the scars of his outbursts.
Exhausted and overwhelmed, Sara and Mike faced a heart-wrenching decision when Luke turned 12. “We felt like we were failing, giving up,” Sara admitted. “But we knew this was necessary to save our family.”
After a grueling process trying to find the help he needed, Luke entered the residential program at Nexus-Mille Lacs at 13-years-old. The structured environment taught him emotional management and self-regulation. After 11 months, the transformation was remarkable. “He’s not that kid anymore,” Sara marveled. Luke himself acknowledged the change, realizing there was another way to be.
Luke is now 16 and speaks fondly of his time at Nexus-Mille Lacs. The Schneiders’ story is a testament to the power of perseverance, professional intervention, and the unbreakable bonds of family love.
“For parents in this situation, it’s scary and dreadful that you have to send your son or daughter away and then to realize that might be the best thing I ever did for him.” - Sara
Sara shared her story at our 2024 Night for Nexus gala fundraiser. Watch how Nexus helped create hope for one family..